Well, we made it! Last night was the Season 20 finale of The Bachelor. I have to thank Ben for being so likable, despite what he thought about himself at the beginning of the process. If it weren’t for his charm, I may not have been able to continue this blog through the whole season…it was not any easy task for the last season of The Bachelorette.
Our friends Ben, Lauren, and JoJo were still in Jamaica after fantasy suites, but this week they got to sit down with Ben’s parents and get to know them. Before any of the girls were introduced, Ben gave his parents a little bit of background, including the fact that he had told both of these girls that he loved them. His mother was quite disturbed about this, but his dad seemed to have a little bit more faith.
The first girl Ben introduced his parents to was Lauren. Ben’s dad really liked her, but again, Mom was skeptical. She opened up a bit more as they talked and really awkwardly held hands. Most of the conversations were validating feelings and proving to Mr. and Mrs. Higgins that Lauren was in this for the right reasons. I’ll be honest, this part of the show was pretty boring.The next day, it was JoJo’s turn to meet the parents. Ben’s mom seemed to like her more than Lauren, although they did not hold hands right away so it’s hard to say. His dad definitely liked her though. JoJo was more genuine- she cried, she opened up, she told them that their son was her best friend and that she felt safe with him. They appreciated that because they had heard him say that was what he wanted in a wife. After they had met both girls, his parents agreed that Lauren was very polished, but JoJo said more of what they were looking to hear. Neither of them will be a disappointment, however, Ben’s mom told him. Comforting, but not very helpful.
Before the Ben had to pop the question, each girl got one more date. Lauren and Ben enjoyed their afternoon on a catamaran talking about how they both wondered if this was too good to be true. Uhhh, yikes. Statements like this make me lose faith in Bachelor couples because yes, it probably is too good to be true. You won’t have fancy dates and helicopters and live bands just for you in the real world. You need go through real things together and know that it’s good, but not too good to be true. From what I saw, Ben shared that with JoJo this season. He and JoJo went cliff diving before their deep conversation, which ended in tears when he confessed to her that he is in love with both girls and that they both know that.
This was hard to watch. I get it. He doesn’t want to lie and give either of the girls a false sense of validation, but there is also not much good that can come out of them knowing that he loves the other girl too. I can’t even imagine what was going through both of their minds this whole week. I’m assuming none of them got much sleep. Ben figured it out though. He made his choice and Neil Lane helped him pick out the perfect ring. This is where the anxiety set in. The helicopter landed and a pair of sandaled feet stepped out. This is when you know…unless they changed it and maybe the first girl is the girl he picks! No…this is it.
JoJo stepped out of the helicopter and walked about a mile and a half over to where Ben was standing, sweaty and teary-eyed. When she finally reached him, she confessed her feelings for a final time. She told him that he was her best friend, and that she would always love him. He stared blankly as she said this and finally told her that he still loved her, but he loved someone else more. Ouch, dude. I know it’s how you feel, but jeez. Even after admitting that JoJo was always better in his times of need, he let her go. It’s not a complete loss for her though- JoJo is the new Bachelorette! (I’m telling you this now because I forgot to record After The Final Rose and I was only able to see 20 minutes of it. More on that later.)
Before Lauren landed in the helicopter, Ben made the phone call so infamously portrayed in the previews. The call was not to JoJo to ask her back, but instead to Mr.Bushnell, to ask permission for his daughter’s hand in marriage. If the hearts of women everywhere didn’t explode when they saw Ben playing with Amanda’s kids, they exploded in this moment. Ben is such a sweetheart. Lauren knew very soon after she got to him that he was about to propose, and he did. He got down on one knee on the slightly wet dock and told her that he never wanted to say goodbye to her. It wasn’t the choice I would have made for him, but he was very confident and very adorable. I was glad that he stopped crying.
Meanwhile, in Chris Harrison’s world, Ben’s hometown preacher was waiting all during the live finale, just in case Ben wanted to get married right then and there. He didn’t. He was a little uncomfortable to see his minister there too. Like I said, unfortunately I forgot to record After The Final Rose, but what I did see of Lauren and Ben looked like they were very happy and very in love. Also, I’m sorry that I never got you my thoughts about Women Tell All. I was very busy pretending I was on The Bachelor in Cancun. Both the episode and the vacation were very enjoyable. Thank you for asking.
So, what do YOU think? Did Ben make the right choice? Are you excited to see JoJo over Caila as The Bachelorette? Is Ben’s mom super intimidating? Let me know in the comments!
Well, I guess this is goodbye until the summer. I may be back with a recipe or a rant, but no promises. I do wish I would have picked Lauren B. instead of LB in my initial picks. I would have then had the final 3 in my top 5! Woohoo for me! Oh well. Best of luck to JoJo, stay away from Reality Steve, and send me any Bachelor(ette) related content that you think I may enjoy. Au revoir!